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The first thing that I want to say is that I try and be as raw and honest as I possibly can online. I think about this a lot but there are so many young and impressionable young people that see an image online and believe it. I just want to put a message out there that not everything you see online is how it exactly looks.

When you look at your phone, a chemical called Dopamine is released and gives you a very addictive and happy feeling - when you see someone has liked your Instagram post, you get that sense of popularity, acceptance and validation and I feel like in this day, we are all very consumed by what others think of us. In this generation, if a child came last in a race then they would get an award along with the actual winner to make it 'fair' but I don't think that is teaching anyone what the real world is like at all.

Growing up on social media kind of brainwashes you in a way to become a very anti-social person and I can admit that I do this myself, and I said to my friend the other week, I went to my friends and we were all just sitting on our phones and not even talking and it's so weird when you put it into perspective but it's become such normal behaviour. Another example is when you walk into a restaurant and they'll be different families at each table but I'd say a strong 60% will be sat with their heads down looking at their phones and it's almost like, what's the point?

I think it's fair to say that as a generation, we are so used to making friends and talking to people online, so when it happens in real life, we almost don't know what to do. Social anxiety is becoming such a common factor these days because people don't know how to connect with other human beings in real life and I think this is partly down to the fact that we have so much control over how we portray ourselves online, for example you can edit your photos, you can filter your photos and you can delete an Instagram or a tweet whenever you want but everything we say in real life is irreversible and I think that worries people. Social media is a cut version of our lives and we can choose what we share with people. There is no backspace or edit button in real life. A big part of my life is obviously my blog, my 'business' but some people don't even know where the 'off' button is when it comes to their phone. By the way, everything I'm talking about, I am also soooo guilty of but I've been thinking about this stuff a lot lately and it's really opened my eyes.

Social media can also be so toxic to our self worth when it comes to comparison. Think about the times that you have looked at someone's Instagram and questioned yourself on how they have such a perfect life and I honestly find this so sad that it's come to that. It's so sad that we can't just accept us, for us. We have such low self esteem as a generation and we have grew up surrounded by what the media has portrayed as 'perfect people' and the 'perfect life' because we've grew up with magazines, televisions and social media. But social media for me, is even worse because it's a real person that you're comparing yourself to and I do this myself, I look at other bloggers and see them doing so well and I'm unbelievably happy for them but it does make you question things and it does make you think but that has become so natural and normal for us humans.

I could be in the most terrible most but I will get dressed just to take an Instagram and then get back in my pyjamas? And that's just so wrong (LOL). Nobody is going to post a picture or a part of their life that they don't like or they're not happy with but then they might wake up the next day and share how healthy their breakfast is.

Everything is just so instant now-a-days, even dating?! People moan that nobody takes anyone out for dates anymore but that's because all it takes is a right swipe on Tinder and they've got you, there's no chase. We've all become very instant and very inpatient, if we want something, we want it NOW, we want replies NOW, we want it NOW. So when people take longer to reply (I'm super guilty of this myself, I might not reply for hours and this could make someone think all kinds of things like, Eddie doesn't like me, Eddie finds me annoying etc. And it's not any of that, I'm just busy and people are busy)

I really wish and want the social media world to become way more raw and honest.. I'm definitely going to be! I know the fitness side have started to be more honest with their audience, for example showing pictures of them being bloated because their audiences will look at that and think "I'm like that too" and feel as they can relate instead of comparing themselves and that's so nice.

There are so many different types of people in OUR generation. The message I wanted to share is that what you see someone post on social media is what they CHOOSE to post and it's not 100% them. None of us see every minute of someones life, so we don't know how unhappy someone actually could be, we don't know if they fight every second of the day with their boyfriend/husband! Nobody knows what happens after a photo is taken or after a video is cut and that's very important to remember.

SOCIAL MEDIA & CONFIDENCE

The first thing that I want to say is that I try and be as raw and honest as I possibly can online. I think about this a lot but there are so many young and impressionable young people that see an image online and believe it. I just want to put a message out there that not everything you see online is how it exactly looks.

When you look at your phone, a chemical called Dopamine is released and gives you a very addictive and happy feeling - when you see someone has liked your Instagram post, you get that sense of popularity, acceptance and validation and I feel like in this day, we are all very consumed by what others think of us. In this generation, if a child came last in a race then they would get an award along with the actual winner to make it 'fair' but I don't think that is teaching anyone what the real world is like at all.

Growing up on social media kind of brainwashes you in a way to become a very anti-social person and I can admit that I do this myself, and I said to my friend the other week, I went to my friends and we were all just sitting on our phones and not even talking and it's so weird when you put it into perspective but it's become such normal behaviour. Another example is when you walk into a restaurant and they'll be different families at each table but I'd say a strong 60% will be sat with their heads down looking at their phones and it's almost like, what's the point?

I think it's fair to say that as a generation, we are so used to making friends and talking to people online, so when it happens in real life, we almost don't know what to do. Social anxiety is becoming such a common factor these days because people don't know how to connect with other human beings in real life and I think this is partly down to the fact that we have so much control over how we portray ourselves online, for example you can edit your photos, you can filter your photos and you can delete an Instagram or a tweet whenever you want but everything we say in real life is irreversible and I think that worries people. Social media is a cut version of our lives and we can choose what we share with people. There is no backspace or edit button in real life. A big part of my life is obviously my blog, my 'business' but some people don't even know where the 'off' button is when it comes to their phone. By the way, everything I'm talking about, I am also soooo guilty of but I've been thinking about this stuff a lot lately and it's really opened my eyes.

Social media can also be so toxic to our self worth when it comes to comparison. Think about the times that you have looked at someone's Instagram and questioned yourself on how they have such a perfect life and I honestly find this so sad that it's come to that. It's so sad that we can't just accept us, for us. We have such low self esteem as a generation and we have grew up surrounded by what the media has portrayed as 'perfect people' and the 'perfect life' because we've grew up with magazines, televisions and social media. But social media for me, is even worse because it's a real person that you're comparing yourself to and I do this myself, I look at other bloggers and see them doing so well and I'm unbelievably happy for them but it does make you question things and it does make you think but that has become so natural and normal for us humans.

I could be in the most terrible most but I will get dressed just to take an Instagram and then get back in my pyjamas? And that's just so wrong (LOL). Nobody is going to post a picture or a part of their life that they don't like or they're not happy with but then they might wake up the next day and share how healthy their breakfast is.

Everything is just so instant now-a-days, even dating?! People moan that nobody takes anyone out for dates anymore but that's because all it takes is a right swipe on Tinder and they've got you, there's no chase. We've all become very instant and very inpatient, if we want something, we want it NOW, we want replies NOW, we want it NOW. So when people take longer to reply (I'm super guilty of this myself, I might not reply for hours and this could make someone think all kinds of things like, Eddie doesn't like me, Eddie finds me annoying etc. And it's not any of that, I'm just busy and people are busy)

I really wish and want the social media world to become way more raw and honest.. I'm definitely going to be! I know the fitness side have started to be more honest with their audience, for example showing pictures of them being bloated because their audiences will look at that and think "I'm like that too" and feel as they can relate instead of comparing themselves and that's so nice.

There are so many different types of people in OUR generation. The message I wanted to share is that what you see someone post on social media is what they CHOOSE to post and it's not 100% them. None of us see every minute of someones life, so we don't know how unhappy someone actually could be, we don't know if they fight every second of the day with their boyfriend/husband! Nobody knows what happens after a photo is taken or after a video is cut and that's very important to remember.
I'm going to talk about something today that a lot of bloggers have at some point in their blogging years I'd say I've been going through mine these few weeks - although I've still been posting every week, I've found it hard to get new/original ideas and it worried me when questioning myself, If I'd never back into my blogging 'mojo' again. I recently reached 100,000 views on here, which can I just say is INSANE! I'm honestly so so so grateful and also gobsmacked that 100,000 people in this world have visited my little blog, I cannot thank you enough! But anyways, it's given me so much motivation to keep working hard and I know it's not all about views and I agree, it's not.. But it makes me feel so happy that so many of you are enjoying my content because never in ONE MILLION YEARS would I have imagined that it would of gone this far, like I always thought this would never happen to me!

Here are a few tips on getting back on track with blogging!

1. Promote yourself - this is number one for a reason and that's because I think people are often scared to share their online spaces with people that they know in the real world because judgement is such an unexpected thing and often you don't know how people are going to react but sharing your work and what you love to do with people, can make such a huge difference because you're sharing what you love to do with the world - don't hide it away!

2. Get inspiration - we all have people we look up to you and yes, it's not good to compare but sometimes I think it actually is.. Because if you can see that your favourite blogger/celebrity is working hard and is in a great position that you'd like to be in one day, then this can strive you to work hard and carry on! Anything is possible, if you work hard (remember that!)

3. Don't force a post - everybody has those days where we're in a world of our own.. We're humans, we're allowed to be! Let yourself have days off and always remember that you aren't MADE to put a post up. Make sure you're happy with everything you publish online and if not.. Delete it! This is your space, make it how YOU want it to be. You don't need to keep up anything that you're not happy with :)

4. Blogging shouldn't be competitive - this is kind of going against my second point, but all these points can be relevant to different people in different ways. Don't look at someone's view count and envy what they have.. Be happy for them! Just like you'd like someone to be happy for you, if you reached an amazing milestone or if you're working with an amazing brand - I did a 'rant' all things blogging, check it out > here! <

5. Schedule - if you're anything like me then being organised is key! I find that the Calendar app has became my best friend, especially when it comes to planning posts. Input your meetings in, make sure you know what you're doing on each day because if you do this then you kind of mentally get prepared for what's coming up in your daily agenda.

5 TIPS ON BLOGGING MOTIVATION

I'm going to talk about something today that a lot of bloggers have at some point in their blogging years I'd say I've been going through mine these few weeks - although I've still been posting every week, I've found it hard to get new/original ideas and it worried me when questioning myself, If I'd never back into my blogging 'mojo' again. I recently reached 100,000 views on here, which can I just say is INSANE! I'm honestly so so so grateful and also gobsmacked that 100,000 people in this world have visited my little blog, I cannot thank you enough! But anyways, it's given me so much motivation to keep working hard and I know it's not all about views and I agree, it's not.. But it makes me feel so happy that so many of you are enjoying my content because never in ONE MILLION YEARS would I have imagined that it would of gone this far, like I always thought this would never happen to me!

Here are a few tips on getting back on track with blogging!

1. Promote yourself - this is number one for a reason and that's because I think people are often scared to share their online spaces with people that they know in the real world because judgement is such an unexpected thing and often you don't know how people are going to react but sharing your work and what you love to do with people, can make such a huge difference because you're sharing what you love to do with the world - don't hide it away!

2. Get inspiration - we all have people we look up to you and yes, it's not good to compare but sometimes I think it actually is.. Because if you can see that your favourite blogger/celebrity is working hard and is in a great position that you'd like to be in one day, then this can strive you to work hard and carry on! Anything is possible, if you work hard (remember that!)

3. Don't force a post - everybody has those days where we're in a world of our own.. We're humans, we're allowed to be! Let yourself have days off and always remember that you aren't MADE to put a post up. Make sure you're happy with everything you publish online and if not.. Delete it! This is your space, make it how YOU want it to be. You don't need to keep up anything that you're not happy with :)

4. Blogging shouldn't be competitive - this is kind of going against my second point, but all these points can be relevant to different people in different ways. Don't look at someone's view count and envy what they have.. Be happy for them! Just like you'd like someone to be happy for you, if you reached an amazing milestone or if you're working with an amazing brand - I did a 'rant' all things blogging, check it out > here! <

5. Schedule - if you're anything like me then being organised is key! I find that the Calendar app has became my best friend, especially when it comes to planning posts. Input your meetings in, make sure you know what you're doing on each day because if you do this then you kind of mentally get prepared for what's coming up in your daily agenda.
It doomed on me that it is Father's Day very soon (definitely closer than I thought) and days like this are hard for a lot of people because you just run out of things to buy for your loved ones, weather that's your father or someone who you look up to as a Father figure in your life, so I thought this post would be so beneficial for people who are struggling to know what to get their chosen loved one!

All items will be linked below :)





FATHER'S DAY GIFT IDEAS

It doomed on me that it is Father's Day very soon (definitely closer than I thought) and days like this are hard for a lot of people because you just run out of things to buy for your loved ones, weather that's your father or someone who you look up to as a Father figure in your life, so I thought this post would be so beneficial for people who are struggling to know what to get their chosen loved one!

All items will be linked below :)





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