Monday, 4 June 2018

BULLYING ADVICE & BEING HAPPY WITHIN YOURSELF

Happy Monday to you all. I've decided to talk about something today that I've always admired talking about it because it relates to so many people. It's so heartbreaking to hear that 1.5 million young people have been bullied within the past year and 145,000 of them were bullied every day.

It opens my eyes up so much to actually how many people get bullied because i'll be honest when I say it shocked me so much. I open my self up to criticism without even realising it and that's sad to think that way but having this platform and all of my other social media platforms has made me a target to 'online trolls' that have probably said everything you could ever imagine and I've definitely grew stronger the more I've done this but when I first started getting it then obviously it did effect me to a certain extent because I never thought it would happen and it's stupid because all I'm doing is living my life and it's sad to think that people have so much time on their hands to pick a part my life. I know so other bloggers that have had the same thing happen to them and if you're a blogger yourself and it's happening to you then I want to reassure you that you're not alone and you should be telling someone and reporting it whenever possible whether it's a comment on one of your posts, an e-mail or even in person.

My first advice to anyone who feels as they have been bullied or targeted by someone is to tell someone. This can be literally anyone who you can trust. I think a lot of the time it's the fact that people don't want to tell their parents that they're being bullied because they don't want to upset them or feel embarrassed. But by telling your parents, they will be there for you and they will support you because that's what they're for. If you really don't want to tell your parents, I'd say tell a teacher because teachers have a duty of care and it's their job to sort out these kinds of things.

My second tip is not to feel embarrassed. I popped some statistics at the start of this post that shocked me but as much as this shouldn't happen, it shows that you're not alone. You're not the only one feeling like this and also it's not something that people haven't heard of before and they know how to help you.. Especially teachers because they have dealt with things like this for the whole of their career. They are trained and know how to give you the correct support. Be happy within yourself. This can be such a huge difference to how you feel and I don't mean in a big-headed way but it also doesn't hurt to know what you've got. You've got a lovely family around you, supportive friends and great hobbies that you enjoy. Why let these people get you down? They're not worth it, they live sad lives and they have way too much time on their hands. For me personally, this came with time and also I've now learned to be so happy with what I have in my own life that I'm not bothered about what people think of me at all.

My final tip is to keep yourself to yourself and only tell the people you know you can trust your deepest secrets. This was a huge problem in my school as rumours spreaded so easily (so fast as well!). It takes time to learn who your true friends are and you get mixed up with lots of different people but you do learn and you learn who you can tell things to and who you can't and just because you might get on with someone, doesn't mean you have to tell them your secrets because it's totally your choice. I have lots of friends but half of them don't know my secrets because there is just no need for them to know but I think that's something I've definitely learned as I've grown older.

And finally, if you're a bully yourself. I think that you need to focus on yourself and not what other people are doing. If you're unhappy with your own life then there are people who you can also talk to and get help with that. Don't make someone else feel bad just because you're not happy. Keep yourself to yourself and everyone will do the same. Before you write a comment on someones picture or open your mouth just think about how what you're saying is going to effect the people around you. You don't know what anyone is going through behind closed doors and that's really important to remember.

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