Sunday, 14 October 2018

HOW TO BE A MORE CONFIDENT YOU

Hello, Evening! I'm guessing you're reading this in the evening anyway because that's when I've uploaded it. If not then, Good Morning.. I hope you all have a good day (read this first though!) I have met a lot a lot of people in my life and some I've clicked with straight away and others, I haven't - which is totally normal, we can't all get a long. However, I came to realise that I used to have a bit of a shy moment when talking to people and I never understood why and I'd always wonder if other people have noticed but I never understand it myself to ask someone else, and I think I was simply too worried to ask someone because if I don't know then how is Jane from down the road going to know what's going on? After over-thinking this topic for quite a while, I decided to try and branch out of this habit I had (I can only call it a habit because I don't know what else to call it) and I really wanted to talk about this today, now I've conquered this feeling I wanted to share a bit of advice if anyone is going through a similar thing that I did. These tips won't work for everyone, same as they won't ALL work for you - different things work for different people!

1. If you think someone doesn't like you, you're probably just over thinking it and if they don't then does it matter? There are going to be people that don't like you, equally they're going to be people that you don't like as well - we're human and it's normal.

2. Being able to act like your true self is a great quality, why change who you are around someone and why do you think that acting like someone else will make people like you more? Your true self is the best version of yourself and you need to embrace it. Also, people can always tell if someone is acting weirdly or not themselves and then this could cause them to question it even more.

3. Write down things that are great about you (and this isn't vein, if it helps then why not?) this one might not be for everyone and I completely get it, but it might help others. I know someone who splits their life up into sections - job, family, hobbies and friends and list all the amazing qualities. I think this one helps if you feel like you're stuck in a bit of a rut and you're bored of doing the same things because it makes you appreciate the things that you have in your life and highlights the things that makes you happy and the things that make you who you are.

4. Have a open mind to everyone you meet. People want to talk to you because you come across as a nice person and they want to talk to you for that reason, if they didn't then they wouldn't be talking to you.

5. There are loads of things you can talk to people about, if it makes it better than just think before you get there on what you're going to talk about. This is a point that you can relate to so many different scenarios - work, dating or parties! Oh, and talk about yourself - even if it's made up and you're never going to see that person again (just make sure you remember what you've said if you do aha!) everyone's got something unique about their life, so talk about it and this can open so many doors to more conversations.

6. Smile. Smiling at people can make such a huge difference and sometimes people will probably be just as shy. Don't forget, you're not the only person feeling like this. There are so many people out there feeling exactly the same thing and you're probably both thinking the same, a smile can open up that barrier and lead on to conversation.

7. Take yourself out of your comfort zone and put yourself into situations that you wouldn't normally. This can sound soo scary at first but it's such a good way to get used to being with people you don't know and having to talk to them. I had experience with retail and when you put it into perspective, I was put into a situation where I knew nobody and this helped me massively!


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